Uncover kingdom relationships that last generationally.
In life and ministry even if God has joined you two together, you both will still have to work out the relationship.
While none of us can do ministry effectively without relationships, it is however incumbent on us to discern people for what they truly stand for and represent before we create a space for them in our lives, calling and ministry. You cannot be emotional about this matter.
Lots of ministers are offended because of the pain caused by supposed ministry relationships.
Truth is that it takes two to tango. Yes, God joins people together in destiny, no doubt.
Mathew 19:6.
But even with that, two cannot walk together except they agree, even if it is the will of God for them to be together. Amos 3:3.
By divine ordination God joined Paul and Barnabas together in destiny in Acts 13:2 but in Acts 15:36-40, poorly managed situation separated them. Many ministers have tales of regrets to tell by reason of what they went through in a supposed ministry relationship.
Never mistake competitors with TRUE FRIENDS; I see this happen in ministry and other fields of life.
Anyone who feels threatened or intimidated and cannot just be cool with the stories of your exploits in life, ministry and destiny is not your friend but your COMPETITOR.
When a supposed friend feels reduced or emasculated by your exploits and always looks for ways to fill insecurity gaps in his consciousness, he is not your friend but your competitor.
If that continues unabated, it can lead to dangerous jealousy and a jealous person is capable of any evil.
True friends undoubtedly motivate their friends to become all that God has ordained them to be, but that’s without putting undue pressure on each other.
Beloved, more often the people who will rejoice with you at your success as “friends” are not too many and if you are privileged to have one or two in your life, please I beg you in the Name of the LORD, don’t throw them away.
These are your genuine friends, they REJOICE with you and CELEBRATE YOU. They are glad to hear things that God is doing through you at the moment and they are always looking forward to hearing the new things that God will do through your hands.
Sometimes you GO THROUGH and GROW THROUGH different seasons together without being ashamed of one another.
I am not talking about suspicion here, don’t go around suspecting people all around you. No no, while we all work on ourselves, the acid test that cannot however be compromised is the desire to see each other fulfil the plan of God and the ability to REJOICE at each other’s success and progress.
You know Bishop David Oyedepo and Bishop Francis Wale Oke have been
friends for over forty years. Friends that’s not a joke. You know Apostle Joshua Selman and Pastor Peterrock Sadiq have been friends for over 10 years.
This is not a joke my friend. They have GONE THROUGH and GROWN THROUGH different seasons in their relationships but by the grace of Christ, they are standing together till date. That’s a whole lot to learn from.
Ask yourself, can your relationships (especially with those whom you consider close) last for years and still see growth?
A number of things have kept these fathers and many others together for decades:
- Mutual respect and honour.
- Praying for each other.
- Fellowship Wirth each other.
- Willingness to see each other fulfil their calling etc.
I also by the grace of Christ, have friends ( though few) whom I can comfortably call covenant brothers and sisters. We have walked together for many years and still highly respect each other.
Learn to discern people early in your life so that the time you ought to spend BUILDING your work will not be spent MENDING IT.
