Here are the seven of the greatest needs of a man.

1) ■RESPECT – This is number one!

The bible says “However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.”

God knew what He was talking about. Men want to know that they are respected by their wives above every other person. Every man feels this internal pressure to excel. We need to be successful at least in one place in our life. If a man can’t feel that respect in his home, he will desire to find it somewhere else. Ladies, you want your husband to love you unconditionally. Are you willing to respect him unconditionally?

2) ■ADMIRATION –

Ladies, the very same way you would not like your man / husband to suggest or admire the beauty of another lady in your presence is the very same way he will react emotionally when you tend to all the time or in a number of times seems to appreciate the handsome ness of another guy(s)
Men wants to be desirable to their wives. That’s physically, but in other ways too. Are we strong enough—masculine enough for you? Do we meet all your expectations in a man? If you are always and constantly commenting on the sexier man in the movies or the more successful man in the world, your husband will certainly not feel admired. For example, if a family struggles financially and the wife complains about it all the time, the man hears that as “I’m not good enough.” The greatest assurance of the fact that we have “what it takes” comes from our wives. Men who don’t sense this will often quit trying.

Ladies, if your husband’s success was proportional to your admiration of him—and the communication of that admiration—how successful will he be?

3) ■PEACE AND TRANQUILITY —

I get in trouble with this one, but men want their home to be a place to prepare for the world—they want to be able to relax.

Men, that is never an excuse for laziness! (Laziness is a sin by the way.) I know this can be an ouch statement, but a man wants his wife to be his wife, and not his mother! Plus, and this is so important to understand, nagging never accomplishes what the wife hopes it will. It may get done what you wanted done, but not with the heart or attitude you hoped to go with the action. Wives is your home a place of peace and tranquility? how comfortable are we living?

#Note Learn to ask your husband questions like, are you okay? Is everything fine with you? How is work? Is there anything that requires us to talk? especially if you notice a change of mood, talk, attitude , actions or he is extremely silent unlike him .

Wives, it takes a lot of effort for a man to open up therefore if he opens up to you on what he might be going through emotionally, financially, sexually or materially don’t be quick to judge him . Let him speak , offer a shoulder for him to lean on , give him advice and pray for him.
Give him full un-interrupted attention. ( men also love attention)

4) ■COMMITMENT –

Yes, men want this too! They want to know they are number one with you and only for you.

Can you women tell that we men have shallow and fragile egos?

Ladies, does your husband know he’s number one to you—that no man could ever take his place?

5 )■ACCEPTANCE/PARTICIPATION –

Husbands aren’t really looking for a wife who will try to change them granted many men need change , but the Biblical way to do this is through prayer and respectable council and motivation and this will in the process change him positively to be a better man. A man also wants his wife to appreciate his hobbies and interests, since it is so much a part of who he is . For example You don’t have to love golf, but don’t ignore him everytime he wants to talk about golf. Men usually talk about the things they love seemingly.

Dear wives be more welcoming in conversations don’t be quick to change a conversation even if you don’t have interest in it. As long as the conversation is uplifting, motivating, funny, educating, etc.

Let your husband delight in sharing anything with you, including inner naughty jokes.Ladies, would your husband say you’re his biggest fan?

–6) ■BE ABLE TO LEAD –

Most men want to lead in their home, but don’t really know how, the wife seems to be bossy all through with commanding orders and instructions that if no one follows there will be a world war 2 in the house.

Dear ladies, you might be a CEO of your company or having a notch higher position but remember your husband is not your Junior or one of your staff at work to follow around with pockets of instructions, he deserves respect and dignity.
Learn to balance who you are in your profession, career or at work and who are are at home.

Research shows men / husbands lead well when they are motivated, encouraged and praised not when they are commanded. Simply let your husband be the man in your life, let him play his rightful position, let him lead protect and be a King in his house, this way he will rule well.

A man’s ego is protected in the place of genuine respect, honour and scriptural submission.
Even when your husband makes a mistake, never mention the below words to him;
You are stupid, I am disappointed in you, I don’t even know why we married, you are good for nothing, you have failed, etc.
If a man keeps hearing those words constantly, he will never perform in anyway, including intimacy. Ladies, are you allowing your husband to sense your satisfaction in his abilities to lead? If you want him to lead, ask yourself, are you willing to follow if he does?

Note: Every man needs to feel appreciated and loved, therefore it is paramount to acknowledge your husband’s efforts especially if he is playing his role of daily provisions and home upkeep .

It is not easy to be a consistent father and husband especially in our today’s generation and culture , we are living in the days of dead beat fathers therefore if the LORD has honoured you with a good man don’t take him for granted acknowledgment him, don’t assume he knows , use the below words in appreciating him; THANK YOU, I HIGHLY APPRECIATE, I AM VERY GRATEFUL. etc

7 )■ FOOD.

Wives, this is the most important part in a man’s life second to intimacy ( sex )
learn to serve your husband and serve him with honour for he is your crown.

Even if it’s your house help who has cooked, it’s a bought food from outside or you are eating in a hotel, it is still not an excuse not to serve the father of your children.

Don’t let your husband be the provider , the chef and at the same time the one who serves himself.

An African proverb ” The way to a man’s heart is through well cooked food. “

Hope this article has made you a better you! May your home and marriage be mightily blessed.